Approach: Gottman Method
The Gottman Method is a structured approach to couples therapy. It begins with an assessment of your relationship. From there, you and your partner learn shared language for what goes wrong between you, along with specific skills for the moments that tend to derail you. It often suits couples whose arguments keep escalating or going around in circles.
What It Covers
Many conflicts in long-term relationships can't be solved once and for all, and the Gottman Method calls these perpetual problems. Trying to force a solution often causes more strain than the issue itself. A large part of couples therapy is learning to live with a lasting difference without it turning into a verdict on the whole relationship.
Amber works from the Gottman framework and brings in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) when attachment needs and fears are driving the conflict. The Gottman Method provides structure for handling disagreements, and EFT works on the emotional bond between you.
More About Gottman Therapy
Before trying to change anything, we look at how your relationship works now. That includes how the two of you talk about a problem, what happens in the first minutes of a disagreement, and where your friendship is still strong or has worn thin.
The goal is a clear description of the pattern that you both agree on, so neither of you has to keep defending your own version of what's wrong.
Couples usually leave each session with a small, concrete skill to practice, such as starting a hard conversation more gently. We review it at the next session, including the times it didn't go well.
Couples can meet with us in Coral Gables, Coconut Grove or Manhattan, or by video when both partners are located in Florida or New York.
